DEAR ERIC: I’m in my early 30s and seeing a really great guy. But he won’t ask me to be his girlfriend. – Not the GirlfriendDEAR GIRLFRIEND: You can ask him to be your boyfriend. If he feels you’re heading toward a committed relationship, it’s fair to ask questions like, how long is this road to a relationship? Your relationship belongs to both of you, so don’t be afraid to ask for what you want or need.