I Cut Off Contact With My Mother. The Estrangement Transformed My Own Parenting.

The author with her children Photo Courtesy Of Asha DoreWhen I cut off contact with my mother three years ago, the relief was instant. After our estrangement, I, too, refused to let her even try to repair anything. As a parent, I realized that I have to let that understanding in ― and allow it to transform my parenting. Advertisement AdvertisementFor me, the first step was unpacking the cycle that was passed down, mother to mother. When I have a tense moment with my kids, I’m learning to ask myself: How will they look back on this experience?