We stopped in a remote area and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex in the mountains. NOT A CHEATER: ‘I had two affairs with married men. It was in my 20s that I fell in love twice with married men. I bumped into one married man I’d been seeing at a restaurant with his wife and two young children. In both cases of having an affair with a married man, it was me who ended it after about four months.