Your Nervous System Isn't Confused, It's TrainedWhat's happening here is conditioning. This is why people sometimes say they miss the chaos they worked so hard to escape. It involves teaching your nervous system, gradually, that nothing terrible happens when you stop. 5 Ways to Practice Staying With the QuietIf you catch yourself missing the chaos you say you hate, it's worth meeting that moment without judgment. Give yourself grace as your nervous system learns a different way of feeling safe.