A wedding invitation that asked guests to cover their own meal costs has struck a nerve online, with many calling the move "tacky" and "tone-deaf." "Even if I would normally have given them $200, I wouldn’t gift them the difference now. My guess is that if someone doesn’t make her see sense before the wedding, most of their wedding gifts will be the dinner their guests paid for." Among the reactions, a recurring question stood out: has it really become normal for guests to pay for their own meal? As one user put it bluntly, “If you can’t afford the wedding, don’t have a wedding.