The family member who hugs you at Christmas while choosing politicians who treat LGBTQ+ rights like a negotiable inconvenience. The Psychology of a Performative Ally: Love Without LoyaltyThese individuals have mastered the art of selective compassion. LGBTQ+ youth don’t lose healthcare by accident. If you say you love LGBTQ+ people but vote for leaders who target us, then your love is counterfeit. And if your legacy can uplift the next generation of LGBTQ+ youth, then let your final act be one of clarity, courage, and fierce compassion.