AskFemme: My Partner Is Pushy About Sex. The Question:My girlfriend is really pushy about having sex. If the genders were reversed, it wouldn’t be OK. And if this feels wrong to you, then it’s not OK, either. Boundaries are real; boundaries are important; and you’re going to have to start using them, as uncomfortable as it may be. Another reason your girlfriend might be being pushy about sex is that she sees physical intimacy differently than you do.